Do you know why spending time on your own is so much important to become successful? Unless you do it, you will not be able to judge the direction of your life.
Most of the successful persons always have such routines. They spare time with themselves every day without a break. I personally started this from Aug, 2018. In that month only I finished one of the outstanding book titled ‘Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod. This book provide guidance on how to spend time with yourself. Till today I am following this routine, it has given me high level of confidence & focused approach towards my life.
This routine has a short form as S.A.V.E.R.S.
S = Silence
The beauty of above is it can be done in 10 minute or you can take one or two hours for that. But one thing is for sure, if you start doing it, you will love to continue this without taking break. Even on Sunday or Holiday You would like to spend more time on this.
Deciding Time Slot
Just to start with, we shall understand this concept in brief. First and foremost point to start SAVERS is deciding time slot, at what time you want to spare with yourself.
Generally best suitable time is morning time, but you can do that at any other time as well. I personally suggest you to have do this in morning. Reason being is let’s assume you decided afternoon time, you will be at your workplace. So there are chances that you will get disturbance in-between.
If you decide evening, then think of your family members. They would like to spare time with you in evening.
So best suitable time is morning time, just wake-up 45-60 minute early then your existing routine time.
S = Silence
Start your day with calmness by either Meditation, breathing, prayer. You can decide any option to calm down your mind and block chatterbox. It’s not easy as chatterbox keep on chatting with you. It remind you all the activities of past, present and future. You mind will keep on roaming around these things.
So by daily practice , you shall be a able to control your chatterbox. After some time it will happen that your chatterbox if at all doing chat but it’s only related to your life’s goal at this time.
You need to have your affirmation. Affirmation is basically your written goals. This include your short term as well as long term goals. As per Brian Tracy ‘only 3% of adults have clear, written, specific, measurable, time-bounded goals, and by every statistic, they accomplish ten times as much as people with no goals at all.’
All the sentences in your affirmation must be in Present Tense (No past & No Future). These affirmation must have only positive words. Even for positive intention you should not use negative words. For examples, If you are going through medical treatment for any particular health issue. Then you should not include that health issue in your health related affirmation. You can simply say, ‘I am fit and healthy’ instead of ‘I am recovering from that particular health issue.’
Generally affirmation revolve around many dimensions of your life, it may include personal, professional, family, relationship, social, financial aspects.
Whatever you have written in your affirmation, you need to visualize it as vividly as you can with all the related feeling. Your subconscious power is going to work on your affirmations and this power is purely govern by your feelings and thoughts.
If you are having some financial goal, visualize yourself in that desired financial condition now. Feel all the associated factors like, bank balance in your accounts, all the assets you have acquired, your investments giving good returns, your business is doing well, your progress in professional career is outstanding.
If you are a student, then you can visualize like you have pass the exam with very good marks, your teacher , friend are congratulating you, asking for party on your success. You get the job in one of your dream company, or you have started your own business immediately after your study.
You need to do exercise as this increase blood circulation in brain by increasing oxygen level. Best time is morning as in environment we get maximum level of oxygen during that time. This can be yoga or any other exercise
You can read one paragraph or one page to start with. Slowly increase that to 5-10 pages in a day. Decide your interest area of article or books. After few month, you will feel the power of this, as your knowledge will dramatically increase in that area.
Most of us stop reading after college that means we stop learning new things, new concepts, new thoughts. Can we become successful after 20-30 years with that old college education. Some of you may argue that we are learning with our experience, I agree that is also one way and most of the time that is the development of your own thought process. What if, you are already having self-limiting thought process about any particular aspect of life and already suffering in that. Money management can be that area, many of us think that we are good at that, but your current financial condition is the reflection of that in true sense.
You can express your thoughts by scribing (writing). If you continue this, after some time, you will find good improvement in your thought and overall towards your life.
Now if you want to follow SAVERS or any other method, it’s up to you. But whole idea is to spend time with yourself for analysing the current condition of your life, then improvement plan to achieve desired goals.
Real life Success Story (By Dale Carnegie)
The president of an important Wall Street bank once described, in a talk before one of Dale Carnegie’s classes, a highly efficient system he used for self-improvement. This man had little formal schooling; yet he had become one of the most important financiers in America, and he confessed that he owed most of his success to the constant application of his homemade system. This is what that president actually followed at home (in his own words).
“For years I have kept an engagement book showing all the appointments I had during the day. My family never made any plans for me on Saturday night, for the family knew that I devoted a part of each Saturday evening to the illuminating process of self-examination and review and appraisal. After dinner I went off by myself, opened my engagement book, and thought over all the interviews, discussions and meetings that had taken place during the week.
I asked myself: ‘What mistakes did I make that time?’
‘What did I do that was right – and in what way could I have improved my performance?’
‘What lessons can I learn from that experience?’ “I often found that this weekly review made me very unhappy. I was frequently astonished at my own blunders. Of course, as the years passed, these blunders became less frequent. Sometimes I was inclined to pat myself on the back a little after one of these sessions. This system of self-analysis, self-education, continued year after year, did more for me than any other one thing I have ever attempted. “It helped me improve my ability to make decisions – and it aided me enormously in all my contacts with people. I cannot recommend it too highly.”
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” —Andrew Carnegie