A well known fact about mind is, whatever thought you feed to it, it shows you ways to support that thought. So it is very essential to train your mind for ‘both’ not for ‘either-on’. But reality is just opposite. How parents responds to their children, when children demand something?
Most of the time they converted that situation in to a condition. Like if you want this, then you need to do this. There are plenty of examples as if kid ask for toy, mom ask kid to behave good, then only the kid can have toy. Or If kid ask for cycle, again one condition of good grade in class. We generally surrounded by so many condition around us for getting something.
The fact is these condition does not left behind us even when we become adult, start earning, have marriage, then kids so on so forth. We are programmed with these conditions throughout our life at every life stage in most of the situations.
What is the Impact of these Conditional Programming?
Before moving on let’s understand interesting facts about thoughts. The average person has about 48.6 thoughts per minute, according to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging at the University of South California. That adds up to a total of 70,000 thoughts per day. There is one most powerful body part, which keep on recording each and every thought irrespective of type, be it positive or negative. We call it our subconscious mind.
We instantly remember thoughts in given situation which is having any emotional attached to it. Like if we are having happy moments, then if we recall all the series of happy moments reflection in our mind instantly. Within fraction of second as all these are stored in our subconscious mind which is basically many more times powerful in processing than a supercomputer.
When we spend our early life with so much conditional thoughts, then these thoughts become our part of our life and control broadly each of our action. We start behaving & acting conditionally in a given situation and also start expecting same thing from other.
Similarly when we have two choices and asked to make one as a final, similar type of conditional pattern follow in our mind. Like parents ask kid, which toy you want Doll or Car; which fruit Apple or Banana. For adult it goes like, this year either Bike or Mobile. While shopping, either this dress or that dress. We are having various type of Either-Or situation in life & how we act, by choosing any one.
With this method, we are blocking our capabilities in long run, we are limiting our self not to explore for both option. It’s a matter of fact that we are giving all these instruction continuously to our subconscious mind.
This subconscious mind is so powerful that it can change your own decision even when you are having ‘Both’ option. It will leave you with only one option by implementing either -or as this is your by default setting. Once you conscious mind is busy somewhere, you are in 100 % control of your subconscious mind.
I shall share one example of car driving here. When we start learning car driving, the very early days a high level of focus required to understand all the necessary aspect of car driving. If any person ask to you to talk to him while driving, will you ? No, you will not agree with that person as you conscious mind is dominating on learning at this stage.
In early days of learning, subconscious mind is capturing each and every things which one can get with 5 main senses: Vision, Hearing, Smell, Touch & Taste. But at same time it’s also capturing all the emotional feeling like excitement, anxiety, happiness, fear etc. All these feeling are now associated with this complete experience of car driving.
Once you learnt car driving, what happen when you are talking to someone and at same time driving car very smoothly. Even if somebody cross road, you only automatically reduces car speed and apply brakes without any worry. What happen now, why this drastic change with respect to initial days experience?
The reason is when your conscious mind is busy talking to somebody while driving, your subconscious mind take full control on driving. This mind give instruction to your hand or leg to control the car.
Same things happen in other situations as well, when our conscious mind got busy, and we are in dilemma of choice, our subconscious mind take over fully and by default run program of ‘Either-Or’ instead of ‘Both’.
Way Ahead to Have ‘Both’ Choice (Feed to mind)
We all know the benefits of keeping ‘Both’ option instead of ‘Either-Or’. Now we need to replace our old conditional programming with new programming. As we know that subconscious power is neutral, it doesn’t understand what is right , what is wrong, what is positive, what is negative.
But our conscious mind understand all these right/wrong/positive/negative, so we shall take the help of our conscious mind to reprogram our subconscious mind thoughts. We have to train our mind for both option again and again.
At the same time we need to add feeling in this new thought process as without feeling we shall not be able to gain any benefit.In fact it will happen that you are repeatedly thinking for ‘Both’ option but ended up in ‘Either-Or’ and feeling clueless for root cause. It will take time, but you will get result for sure.
This subconscious mind only will suggest you the ways on How to have ‘Both’. This mind is so much powerful on either way, it can improve your life as heaven or make your like hell. Now choice is yours on how to train this.
You conscious mind is powerful enough to filter thousands of thought, to only have positive, growth oriented though to enter in subconscious mind. If some negative thought come in conscious mind, then it’s our responsibility to nullify these thought and replace them with more powerful positive thoughts.
Either Home or Car while doing job in early stage of career, train your mind like ‘why not both’; ask your subconscious mind to provide solution on ‘how to achieve both of them’ in early stage of career. Not be surprised when you got the answer.
“If you look at what you have in your life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”- Oprah Winfrey